Peace and tranquility is our ultimate goal! We each want that, and it seems when people get older, that’s exactly what seems to elude them. Why is that?

For me, this means accepting what is, and letting go of what we’d like it to be. Letting go of being perfect. Why is it that we look in the mirror and see all the flaws? Those flaws really mean we have lived, loved, gotten smacked down, and gotten up again stronger, and better.

That little old lady looking back in the mirror tells me not to be so hard on myself, you are beautiful the way you are. Just like everything else, accepting our beauty with all its spots, wrinkles, and scars is a gift. A gift we can give ourselves!

We all know this isn’t an easy ask! All of us are most critical of ourselves, but much more accepting of the flaws of other’s. Actually, my own girlfriends have been the ones to pull me out of despair, and hopelessness after a major surgery. If it weren’t for them, I’d still be a woman unable to leave my own home thinking everyone would be looking at me!

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This is what a support group looks like. These ladies are some of the most important women in my life. I wish all of you are able to gather a few really good friends you can support, and be supported by for whatever the reason.

Thank you Susan, Beth, Trish, and Sally for all your creative energy, and support when I need it.

Wrinkles…. That’s an entire different disturbing occurrence. Do I love them? Hell no! Is there anything we can do about them? Well yes and no. Without surgery, we need to give in and learn to live with them. They are stubborn little lines and crevasses. I don’t have as many as some, but more than others.

That is the way I reason away my flaws. [They aren’s as bad as some]. I also work very hard at seeing the good parts to someone, and not the flaws.

Gray Hair ……. Oh boy, how do we learn to live with yet another sign of aging? Gray hair is definitely a sign. I have always said, “I’m going to learn to live with all the things that go with getting older,” I didn’t realize how many things that meant. Another words, I’m going to grow old gracefully.

To be honest, I never thought I’d get old. I thought it was a lifetime away, why worry about it now. Little did I know that a lifetime away meant right around the corner! How does that lifetime slip away so fast?

I feel like I’m living in an alternate reality, I’m really only 40, and someone is playing a terrible joke on me. I’ve learned to love my gray hair. It’s nice to not have to color it every month, or worry about the roots showing after two weeks, so yes I love my gray hair.

That doesn’t mean I don’t have times of yearning for a color that would help me feel more vital, or a style becoming a much younger woman with a wild side.

Scars… Scars are sometimes telling and sometimes they can be emotional. We won’t get into emotional scars today. Many of us have had surgeries, or accidents leaving us with scars all over our bodies. I myself have a couple of, as I call them, zippers here and there. I can’t say they are beautiful, or that I love them, but they aren’t going anywhere, nor do I care to show them off.

We can’t do anything about scars, but once again, learn to live with them. Anything that can be covered up, for me, isn’t a problem.

Let us not forget this message of the Power of Positivity!

It will serve us well to be positive, to embrace the life we have, or change it for the better. It is so much easier to make an effort to be happy, and to keep a smile on our faces.

The right people will be attracted to a woman with a happy personality, and a beautiful smile on her face. Most people will love what is on the inside, and not even notice the outside.

Thank you for stopping to read my blog, I very much appreciate all of you.

Leave some feedback, and let me know how you feel about aging. I’d love to hear from you.

Together we stand, Karen